Well, Actually…
I want to tell you a joke. It’s one of my favorites. It’s about mansplaining, and I like that it’s funny and clever, but also has a certain social awareness. Here it is: Q: Where does a man get his water? A: From the, “Well, actually…” That’s good, right? Anyone who has experienced mansplaining can laugh at it, and the “Not all men!” crowd can smirk smugly at their assumed superiority over the rest of their gender. But it still has a punch to it. It resonates because of the truth...
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Another year, another Valentine’s Day, another 24 hours to pass waiting for all of that amazing chocolate to go on clearance… I’m a strange creature: I’m driven by emotions, but emotional displays make me queasy. I watch movies and get choked up over declarations of love that would make me cringe if they happened in my living room. I turn my nose up at the type of big romantic gestures that I secretly hope for. I’m the queen of mixed signals. Valentine’s Day can be a loaded time for anyone, but when your...
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This is a post about body positivity. I am not an expert; I’m just someone who has been wrasslin’ around with body image and self-worth issues in a lot of different ways for most of my years on this planet. I’m also not done yet. There are still days where I stand in front of a mirror and I can’t look myself in the eyes or when I avoid physical contact because this body feels like a cage. But those days are fewer than they used to be and I have better ways of dealing with them than I used to, so I wanted to share...
read moreHave Yourself A Married Little Christmas
The world of dating and relationships is always full of surprises (and, if your interested in dating men, more than a few unsolicited dick pics), but I still never cease to be confused and bewildered by the mating and dating rituals going on out there in the wild. I’ve been on a blind date where the guy picked me up for dinner, but I had to sit in the back seat…because his boyfriend was in the front. I went on a date with someone who artificially lowered his age by about 25 years, and when I told him I didn’t feel...
read moreBaby, It’s Woke Outside
Tis the season for arguing mindlessly about consent on Facebook? Doesn’t have that typical Bing Crosby “White Christmas” ring to it, does it? But since the discussion of some radio stations refusing to play the holiday classic “Baby It’s Cold Outside” is the controversy du jour, I figured I’d open my big mouth about it too. While most of the discussions I’ve seen devolve pretty quickly into nothing useful at all (like most discussion on Facebook), I think that this does have the potential to...
read moreThanks For Nothing
It’s the time of year for all of the obligatory “thankful and grateful” posts, and I am usually on board with this general airing of public positivity. So much of the internet and social media is saturated with negativity, so what could be better than people taking a moment to share things that make them happy and grateful and generally feeling the warm and the fuzzy?! Sure there are people who think that these posts can get a little braggy (and sometimes they do), and people who love to throw around words like...
read moreOn Entertainment & Entitlement: A Conversation
Today I was driving home from the Dakota Divas Halloween show feeling tired but satisfied; we had a solid show with some interesting and diverse performances by a total of 11 performers. One of the things I love about producing drag shows is the opportunity to work with local performers and build a show that is always unique and changing. It’s also very important to me that performers have a space where they feel respected and are able to develop and hone their craft. Occasionally I will give some direction in terms of themes or...
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Y’all, this website drama has been putting me through it! Without going into all kinds of boring details that no one cares about anyway, a couple of months ago my website went offline. There were some problems with the servers and in the time it took to resolve, all the databases that stored my content were lost. I’ve been able to track down some of the stuff that means the most to me, like many of my old blog articles, but a lot of content and photos were lost. This new site that you’re looking at is my World of...
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